Jacintas's Smile – Sibling Bereavement Support

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Thought of today. #grief #siblings #family #death

Thought of today. #grief #siblings #family #death #survival #irish #hope

I began to care what others thought of me, it stop

I began to care what others thought of me, it stopped me in my tracks 😕

I have enough to be harsh feelings and thoughts without adding to my imagination of others perception of me and then allowing them to get in the way.

I will move from this place as I intend to practice it - slowly - non judgementally and with kindness to my shaken heart. #siblingloss #grief #death #fog #hope #love #family #irish #grieving

Welcome to our world 🤷‍♀️ #grief #nocontr

Welcome to our world 🤷‍♀️ #grief #nocontrol #covid #death #reality #uncertaintly #welcometotheclub

There are the moments that just catch us. 🥺 The

There are the moments that just catch us. 🥺 There is so much in this. The guilt of not appreciating how Fintan lived his life. The potential we always knew was there would be rising to shine right now. Fintan had a soft, polite and clear sounding voice. Perfectly tuned for podcasts- which we now believe he would have flourished at. Even if there was just three people listening in. He wouldn’t care he would just be happy to be speaking with passion about books and music. He would be at home in this space. He lived for reading and listening. 😔 this realisation of what he could have become and how at peace he would be in it hurts our soul 🙁 And breath. #griefguilt #guilt #unresolved #hurt #passion #irishpodcasts #books #music #fintan

Kindly, many genuine people have asked how we are

Kindly, many genuine people have asked how we are as a family and how I am as a sister. Having suffered the loss of losing another brother so suddenly and so young.

First Declan, than Jacinta last year and now Fintan last month.

Even typing this sentence confuses the Hell out of me.

Oh Jesus, do I wish that this Hell could be pulled out of me.

That this Hell could be stripped down and buried beside my siblings.

That it could be pulled deep down so I could no longer feel the heated fire of its ferocious terror of which my boiling blood viciously flows.

How are we? No, it's not a silly question and thank you for asking 🙏🏼

We are sad, we are distraught and we are terrified. We hear the words "how can one family suffer so much death?"

Well, we don't know either, we don't have the answers.

All that we know is that, if we do not continue to roll over and put our feet on the ground beside our bed in the morning then that is when we will not be ok.

The only way we choose to be ok is by moving with, not moving on but moving with.

Moving slowly in ease with the resounding and defending silence that these spaces and voids have now created.

Moving with the look on my mothers face as i greet her in the morning.

To see the shreds and rips down her exhausted face, gifted and etched by the Ban Shee.

Moving with the edge and fear of a father as he considers giving up, becoming not interested.

Seeing the disappointment in realising the life he once believed he could offer his wife and children was no longer in his grasp. There was no control in this.

The man that I once knew begins to fall to his already stained and shattered knees. No longer having strength to hold his family together.

Moving with my brother and sisters as we float around eachother like delicate empty shells. Hoping not to crack or else the sand seeps in and we will drown.

Hoping for a safety net to catch us and not catch and take away who we have left.

For me,

Moving with the helplessness, panic, distraction and discomfort.

The law of averages not taking us into account. Knowing I can never say "that is it now, no more". We said that before. *continued in comments

VHI Women’s Mini Marathon 👌🏻👌🏻 Hello

VHI Women’s Mini Marathon 👌🏻👌🏻 Hello all, we are looking to see if anyone would be interested in running the Women’s marathon for us this year 🙈 Now, look, I know we are late to the party 🤷‍♀️ but we said we would put the word out there anyway. This is an event from today until October 10th where you run 10km. I know many of you will be doing it on your own but really you will be doing it with so so many other strong, brave, kind and compassionate women. 👊🏻 Let us know if you would like to complete the run in our behalf. We would be honoured to have you in our team. 👩🏼‍🤝‍👩🏻🏃🏼‍♀️ #vhiwomensminimarathon #running #minimarathon #womenempowerment #strongwomen #love #hope #charity #goodcause

Happy birthday @charlotte_otoole you are loved, al

Happy birthday @charlotte_otoole you are loved, always and in all ways. X

Today is #internationaldaughtersday which is so ne

Today is #internationaldaughtersday which is so needed especially right now to be celebrated and felt 😌 AND we are so aware of all of you parents that do not have your daughter with you in the physical world tonight🥺 if we could we would bring them all down to sit in front of the fire with us 🔥 even just for an hour. Oh, the things we would say this just isn’t real life 🤷‍♀️ take care and of your selves and accept the hugs and kind wishes from those thinking of you. Know that if they and we could take your pain we would. 💕#daughters #brokenhearted #loss #bereavement #hope #family

Affects of grief - alopecia 😢 You can see in th

Affects of grief - alopecia 😢 You can see in the first picture the worry in me as I get Cian to take a picture. The feeling of “how is it now? Is it worse, is there new growth” My stomach had dropped in this picture with complete and utter disappointment. The impacts of grief on our physical bodies is huge. Yes this is stress due to trauma and not being able to control what is going on around me. 😕 When I am told to surrender and let be - it’s just so much easier said than done. Each time my hair falls out I see it on the pillows, the car, the shower, my children’s hands everywhere but where I want it - my head. I know this is due to immense stress and trauma within the body and the psyche. I spoke about it in our stories this morning and it is just incredible the amount of women that this is happening to right now. 🥺 it’s so so sad, it’s not fair and it’s frightening. 😞 Honestly, we just have no idea what people are dealing with. 🤷‍♀️ if you swipe over you will see a picture of me with long lovely hair - it’s a mask. The reality is underneath. 😏 If this is you that’s going through the loss of your own “crown” 👸🏻💁‍♀️ then I’m so sorry you are having to deal with this huge loss too that you are having to grieve a part of you that you are not sure will ever return. That your confidence is knocked and that you don’t feel like you anymore. Hey look, just know that you are really not on your own in this. #togetheryetapart as they say. #wegotthis ladies 💪🏻💪🏻 #alopecia #hairloss #affectsofgrief #grief #siblingloss #surewhynot #hope

Again some more of the photos coming on from our c

Again some more of the photos coming on from our challenge at the weekend. 😌 seeing so many people from all walks of life take part for our organisation is honouring and so beautiful 💚 the creativity, the effort and the humour. We loved the stunning pictures coming in. The outdoors, the space, the greenery, the fresh air. There is just such a huge sense of freshness and life coming from each and every one of them. 🚲 One of the reasons that we chose this challenge is because when a person is grieving we believe that having little goals is hugely important in keeping that person interested, moving forward and simply knowing they have something to look forward to. When we are grieving sometimes we lose all sense of hope. 😔 having a small goal to work towards offers something to exist for. 🤸🏼‍♀️ as the world says: the small things are the big things. 👌🏻 thank you to everyone of you that gave us your heartfelt energy this weekend x 🏅#siblinggriefsupport #siblinglove #hope #thelittlethings #love #active #irishsiblings #siblingsupport #family

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